DIFFERENCES : Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other’s throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.
FIGHTS : Fight with the aim to resolve the issue. Don’t outdo each other. The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you’ll say something hurtful that you don’t really mean. As mad as you were with your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes and thinks you’re hot. Hear each other out, don’t dig up old issues. Choose your battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it and that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.
FLAWS : Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.
FUN : Have fun together! This means keeping the fun and spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly – shower together, pee with the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh and see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle and opposing viewpoints.
GOALS : Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.
GRUDGES : Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don’t recycle it.
KEEPING IT HOT : Keep it hot by traveling to different places together. A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact – be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.
HONESTY : Don’t lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.
KNOW EACH OTHER : Learn each other’s interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!
HUG : A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.
IDENTITY : Don’t lose your personality – that’s why he/she fell in love with you. Have separate interest and activities to keep your individual, and to be able to contribute more to the relationship.
INDEPENDENCE : Having your own income means you’re the boss in your life.
IN-LAWS : Make rooms for the in-laws.
INTENTIONS : Wish each other well. Don’t wish each other worst.
ISSUESS : Peak up about the awkward stuff now, like money and sex. The earlier, the better.
LISTEN : Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.
LOOK GOOD : Mind your appearance! Stay fit and healthy for each other.
LOVE : It all boils down to your love, chemistry and respect for each other.
MEMORIES : Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It’s the little surprises that make great memories.
MIND READING : No matter how long you’ve been together, do not think that you can read each other’s mind.
NEEDS : Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner. That’s what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy?
Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other’s feelings. Be very attentive & sensitive to each other’s needs, physically and emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you. Never take your partner for granted.
PRIORITIES : If one says it’s important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!
SPACE : Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy’s night out. If you can’t trust each other with this, then don’t get married.
SORRY : Say sorry when you’re wrong.
SURPRISES : No matter how long you’ve known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.
TEAMWORK : Think for two and always work as a team. Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you. Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.
SUPPORT : Support each other’s dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions and create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.